How to help someone balance spirituality and sexuality?

I saw an answer saying she's manipulating you, and if she believes in abstinence whyd she shagg you once.. (im on a cell phone so bare with me) but... I disagree. Being a woman, and having studied pychology, sociology, etc. From what you have said, I believe she is confused and conflicted between what she has been taught about sin, and her sexual desires for you. It is often with religion that we are taught sex is wrong, and the pleasure is wrong, orgasms, masturbation, all wrong. And only in marriage should you have sex. This creates a pychosis in an individual who is naturally sexual, whos body desires it. She having been told it's wrong, she feels guilty for "giving into you", most likely. She may purposefully go against her religion trying to take down the boundaries, but they can pop right back into place afterwards, especially when she's feeling particularly vunerable and exposed with you. Also, she may feel that she's giving alot to you by having sex with you, feels you won't continue to love her and she could loose you. So in a combination of things, she's afriad of being intimate (for fear of it ending with her getting hurt) and offending her god/ religious beliefs. If you truly love her, she will need reasurance in your relationship until she can feel safe and let her self trust, and be happy and intimate with you. And know that's what she needs, intimacy, reasurance, and patientce. Also a book that may help both of you in regards to balance, and dicipline, between spirituality, sexuality, love (maybe less emphasiss on sexuality but an example of a woman who had pychosiss thinking god was going to kill her for her sexual desires and how the author helped her) read "the road less traveled" by M. Scott Peck, M.D. Hope this long post helps you!